“What if I fail again?”

In case you missed my e mail from a few weeks in the past, Steve requested me to put in writing some extra centered health and diet content material for the Riot.

And since then, I acquired a TON of emails from folks circling across the identical factor: a scarcity of perception they’ll truly make change work this time! I wager you’ll be able to relate:

“Largest problem – dropping belief within the course of and myself.”

“Having hassle believing that being constant will truly assist and being scared that it doesn’t matter what I do I’ll fail.“

“I’m afraid of failing, I’m attempting to not set myself as much as fail however it all appears so daunting. I do know all of the phrases for the “proper” mindset, however I simply can’t appear to seek out the need/power/want to go and do something after work.”

These fears are very, VERY regular. (Although that doesn’t make them any much less sucky to take care of!)

So, what will we do once we are feeling caught and terrified of how overwhelming this all feels?

💡 The Most Essential Factor

Whereas each story is totally different, there’s one factor I’ve observed that actually helps you may have a better likelihood of success:

Constructing momentum early – after which defending that momentum.

Early wins make the remainder of the journey simpler.

And certain, an early win MIGHT appear to be seeing the dimensions transfer or getting stronger within the fitness center.

However these issues are outcomes that come weeks and even months later, AFTER doing “the factor” constantly. That isn’t useful within the second once we are feeling unsure and overwhelmed.

That’s why I like to start out by monitoring and celebrating effort.

Choosing 1-2 repeatable actions that you may observe every day:

Every motion is a WIN, which is a small signal of progress.

And if we will acknowledge and have a good time every motion, it begins to construct proof that “I’m the kind of one that can do that, even when it’s arduous.”

And that little little bit of hope?

It may be sufficient to maintain going by the robust elements.

👨‍🔬 A Actual-Life Instance

Let’s take my shopper Ben, for instance. He was on this very same boat once we began working collectively.

Tremendous busy work schedule with an hour commute every manner
4 younger youngsters at house
Had a latest well being scare that made him understand it was time to make a change
Unsure the place to start out, and actually afraid this could be one other try that he tried and failed at

So we talked about all these issues brazenly – the REAL constraints on his time and power, the worry that this wouldn’t work, and his hope for a future the place he felt higher and health didn’t really feel so arduous to stay with.

After which we picked a couple of issues that we thought may very well be a superb place to start out.

✅ A 10min stroll throughout his lunch break

✅ An inventory of go-to orders at eating places round his work – so he would at all times have a superb possibility even in a pinch

✅ Push-ups off the countertop each time he brushed his tooth.

And whereas these actions could appear small, that they had an outsized affect. They allowed us to construct consistency and observe overcoming obstacles FIRST, then we might fear about optimizing for outcomes LATER.

And that’s the place the actual magic occurs—not simply in bodily change, however in mindset:

“I’m the form of one that reveals up.”

“I can belief myself to comply with by.”

“I understand how to get again on observe when life occurs.”

Ask any of our most successful clients, they usually’ll say the most important change wasn’t simply of their physique.

Their largest change was truly in how they thought about health, habits, and who they believed they might turn out to be.

🕳️ The Pitfall

After we begin with attempting to optimize, doing the whole lot “completely” proper from the get-go, it may well really feel like we’re drowning and never capable of sustain.

That simply reinforces the assumption that we aren’t capable of make any adjustments. That we’re simply one of many individuals who “these things doesn’t work for.”

That’s the precise entice we try to keep away from!

After all, everybody’s place to begin is totally different. You might be able to bounce proper right into a a number of day per week exercise routine, or extra aggressive diet adjustments.

The purpose isn’t to FORCE your self to tackle lower than you might be able to – it’s to be sure you can steadiness “difficult” with “doable” so you’ll be able to construct perception in your self and the method.

Quick ahead two years, and Ben’s routine seems to be a lot totally different from the place we began.

He now does a power exercise 4x/week within the morning earlier than work
He goes by durations the place he tracks his energy and macros, and others the place we take a extra relaxed strategy with a basic deal with getting loads of protein, vegatables and fruits every day
He prioritizes sleep and will get over 8,000 steps every day

Whereas Ben has gotten stronger, misplaced over 30lbs, and seen his blood markers enhance – it began with crucial factor: constructing momentum.

🎬 The place do I begin?

So the place does that depart you, immediately? Right here’s how I’d strategy it.

✅ Acknowledge the actual challenges and constraints in your time and power.

This isn’t a “rah-rah” strategy to disregard all of the arduous stuff. Acknowledge that it’s OK and NORMAL to really feel this fashion. (Steve truly simply wrote in regards to the “Notice and Name” concept right here.)

✅ Begin with observe—not perfection.

Give attention to a repeatable motion (like a brief power session, or protein at two meals), not simply the consequence you need. Consider it like observe. You gained’t be good. You’ll make errors. And that’s all a part of it.