What’s different this time? | Nerd Fitness

Right this moment is probably the most hope and optimism-filled day of the 12 months.

That’s nice!

No matter targets or resolutions you’ve set for your self, I’m excited for you!

We’re all making an attempt to raised ourselves, and although issues haven’t labored out the way in which we wished them to up to now, we hope this time will probably be completely different.

Musician Nick Cave describes hope as “optimism with a damaged coronary heart,” and I feel that’s superbly correct. We’re all making an attempt to be completely different when change is so rattling arduous.

Should you’re making an attempt to construct a brand new exercise behavior or change the quantity on the dimensions this 12 months, I salute you. Setting a aim to alter may be very commendable.

However to offer ourselves one of the best likelihood of undertaking our aim, we should mix the aim with some self-reflection and self-awareness.

Listed below are TWO inquiries to ask your self as we start 2025…

Query 1: What’s completely different this time?

I’m happy with you for beginning once more.

However what’s completely different about this try?

Should you do what you’ve all the time completed, you’ll get what you’ve all the time bought.

The perfect predictor of future conduct is previous conduct.

Should you choose the identical aim or technique that you just tried (unsuccessfully) up to now, the tip end result would be the similar: one other misplaced 12 months of “why can’t I get my act collectively?”

So, be deliberate about what’s completely different this time!

Don’t simply “go on XYZ weight loss plan” or “hand over all sugar endlessly” or “practice for a marathon” once more, particularly in the event you’ve tried these issues earlier than and couldn’t follow them.

One thing needs to be completely different this time:

• Make fewer modifications.
• Choose ONE aim and give attention to it.
• Choose a unique exercise routine.
• Choose a unique weight loss plan or vitamin change.
• Choose a unique time of day to work out.
• Recruit a buddy to affix you so that you’re not doing it alone.
• Make your new desired conduct ​beneficial or necessary​.

Show to your self you’ve realized one thing out of your previous makes an attempt. Don’t let previous failures be in useless – they confirmed you what doesn’t work for you.

Attempt one thing completely different this time!

Query 2: What are you afraid of?

You’re filled with momentum proper now, and that’s nice.

However three weeks from now, life will occur, and one thing will go flawed.

What has been your tendency when this occurs up to now?

We ask each ​NF Coaching Client​ earlier than they begin, “What are you most nervous about?”

That reply is one thing they’re conscious of on account of their previous makes an attempt:

Are you going to get busy and determine “to take a break till issues decelerate?” Nice! Now you understand when that little voice in your head says this, you may put together for it, plan to do one thing in a different way, and determine that you just don’t have to take heed to that voice in your head.

Are you going to have one dangerous day and go completely off the rails? Nice! Now you understand that when you could have one dangerous day, you may forgive your self, not look again in anger or guilt, and get proper again on observe.

Are you going to surrender although you actually actually actually wish to push by? Nice! This occurs to all of us when motivation wanes after a number of weeks. Think about ​adding a Ulysses Pact​ to protect towards your weaknesses or having a bet with a buddy to maintain you accountable.

NF Coach Matt Myers was just lately on the ​Mental Golf Podcast with Josh Nichols​ – and on the 24:30 mark within the episode, Matt identified one thing to Josh that shocked him:

“You advised me earlier than you began, ‘I do know I’m going to come back out of the gates HARD, however about 3 weeks in, I’m going to burn out and disappear.’

And I mentioned, ‘Thanks for letting me know,’ and I had all these alarms and alerts able to verify in with you repeatedly across the 21 day mark!”

Josh had the self-awareness to know the place he would screw up sooner or later, he and Coach Matt deliberate for it, and bought over the hump collectively.

Since then, they’ve labored collectively for 2 months (and counting), and Josh has solely missed a single day of checking in and lacking sooner or later didn’t trigger Josh’s regular “all-or-nothing” conduct to kick in!

This time CAN be completely different

All of us got down to change, and even after we’re self-aware…

We frequently chew off greater than we are able to chew:

Our targets and hopes typically exceed the truth that we’re fallible, busy, sophisticated people dwelling unpredictable lives.

That’s okay!

If we’re conscious of these items, if we are able to strive in a different way…then even when this subsequent try doesn’t work both, we are able to take away that technique from the listing of potential profitable paths, and take a look at once more.

That’s all life is anyway: strive, fail, modify, restart.

-Steve

PS: Should you don’t wish to go on this journey alone, I’d be honored in the event you take a look at ​the NF Coaching Program​.

Our coaches are superior and we’d love that can assist you attain your targets. We’ve had a TON of sign-ups these previous few days, which has me actually excited to assist so many new individuals.